Welcome to some of the articles written by and about Dr. Jane Bolton. The articles are downloadable pdf files. Enjoy. We Need Each Other: So Let’s get It Together Everything we want is dependent on the quality of our relationships with other people. “Whoa!” you might say, “I do plenty of things that don’t involve other people; I’m a very independent person. I’m not (a snide tone of voice kicking in) co-dependent!” (To continue, download pdf below.) We Need Each Other: So Let's Get It Together Stressed and Burnt Out: Trapped Between the Anxiety Rock When You Say “Yes” and the Guilty Hard Place When You say “No” I just received an email with a quotation from The Invitation, by Visionary author, Oriah Mountain Dreamer : “It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. . . .I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself: (Continue with downloadable pdf file below.) Caught Between the Anxiety Rock and Guilty Hardplace? High Self Valuing Is the Best Predictor of Success How Do You Know If You Need Higher Self Esteem? Self Esteem is generally thought to embrace two main aspects of ourselves: 1) our competency and 2) our lovability. In a recent national survey, 85% report that they would be helped by increasing their sense of competency & lovability-their self esteem. You’ve probably seen toddlers learning to walk. They plop down, they struggle to pull themselves up, and then waddle onward. No loss of self esteem there, in the “failure” to walk perfectly. (One description of success is to fall down 6 times and get up 7 times.) My point is that it’s natural to feel high self esteem, unless we have been taught that we are ‘not enough.’ The good news is that if we have been taught to have low self esteem, we can also learn the skills to promote high self esteem.(Continue with the downloadable pdf file below) High Self Valuing Is The Best Predicter of Success Gas Price Woes Have You Thinking of Home-basing Your Psychotherapy Business? The Good, the Bad and the Snuggly of Home Offices for Psychotherapists In a June 23 article of workforce.com the grip of high gas prices is examined along with the Society of Human Resources’ attempts to help the work force deal with this economic issue. Home-basing business is one solution. But is it a good idea for therapists to have a home-based psychotherapy office? It depends. I review some of the important things to consider. (Continue by downloading pdf file.) Gas Price Woes Have You Considering Home-basing Your Psychotherapy Business? The G A Lemon-aided Life (Part 1) Question: What were your early influences that impact your work as a therapist? And how did you chose which therapeutic theories suited you? Dr. Jane: Hmmmm. I realize that there were many difficult things that eventually turned out to be great support and guidance. I think of them as lemons that I made into lemonade (a favorite drink of mine). (Continue by downloading pdf of Part 1.) A Lemon-aided Life, Part 1 A Lemon-aided Life (PART 2) Question: The incidents with your mother seem to show her “self-absorption.” How does that lemon impact your therapy? Dr. Jane: You are right about her. I didn’t realize for so long her inability to focus attention on another person’s inner experience. But when I called her from San Francisco to tell her I was getting divorced. Her response, “How could you do this to me?” was telling. (Continue by downloading pdf file below.) A Lemon-aided Life, Part 2